SYAFIQAH'S

my dream wedding

Tuesday, July 2, 2013,

im a girl with high imaginations. like really HIGH! i grew up reading Enid Blyton (since i was 7). i practically collected all her books. yes, im that die-hard fan. and yes, i am that girl who believes in elf, fairies, talking trees and friendly animals. there were times, i even waited the whole night for my dolls to come alive and bring me to a magical forest where the fairies were dancing. and i believe in happily ever after.

so, while growing up, i always imagine of a fairy-tale wedding. i aimed, on my wedding day, i want to put on the most expensive ball-gown. the one that flares, and detailed with pricey beads. i want to have sparkly crown on my head. my wedding will be in the most magnificent hotel, in a large ballroom hall. everyone will be awe-struck by the deco, and by my dress. i told myself, i dont mind spending how-ever much, after all, i will b married only once in a lifetime. (i aim for that).

but then, i dont know whether it's called maturity, or command sense, but something struck me. i will be turning 23 this year, infact, in just 8 days. i dont know when, but my dream has changed. i no longer dream of an expensive, grand wedding. when i looked in utube, all those videos of grand weddings, i felt sad. seriously. i was thinking, how can people use all these money for only this one day occasion? while my brothers and sisters in Palestine, Syria and other places in country, are in great danger. and how wonderful if the money can b used to help them? i started thinking, what is the true definition of a marriage?

after months of googling, and hours of readings, i have decided. on my wedding day, i want it to be simple. dont get me wrong, i still want to be the princess of the day, but instead of wearing huge ball-gown, i want a simple baige dress. yes, it still flares, but it does not take the word MODERATE away. most importantly, it covers my aurat well. and i dont want any PELAMIN, or over-decorated hall. infact, i want the hall to be filled with remembrance towards Allah. i want the sound of zikrullah and qasidah to fill the entire hall. i dont want a hotel ballroom hall anymore, i want a hall in a mosque. in my card, i will write the dressing code as : "PAKAIAN MENUTUP AURAT, YG DIREDHAI ALLAH".

i dont want to spend so much on the event. as i reflect, on the intention of a walimah, it is actually to spread the good news to everyone, that the bride and groom is now a 'halal' pair. let that be my aim. not to boast how much money i have, by creating over-spent event. after all, niat sebenar walimah, is to sadaqah, by serving foods to the guests. plus, when u think back, daripada belanja RM30k on pelamin, and deco, why dont u donate it to help the unfortunate people around the world?

the thing we forgot is that, bila sepasang manusia diijab kabul, menangis lah syaitan. Nikah itu, menghalalkan bnyk perkara yg sebelum ini diharamkan. but then, after such a BARAQAH event, we celebrated it the wrong way. kite membazir, and certain weddings, ade menari2, pergaulan x berbatas between opposite sex, the bride x menutup aurat, over make-up. it's like we are paying money to do sins. isnt that ridiculous?

so, if u were to asked me, what is my dream wedding, it will be a wedding like this ; click me

a few days ago, i had a coversation with mama, on how i plan to have my wedding. she asked me, what is my dream wedding, so i told her this,

"wedding kakak nanti, i dont want people to be impress with my HALL'S DECO or how i can AFFORD the expensive things, but i want people to be REMINDED of the beauty of islam, and most importantly, to PLEASE ALLAH. semoga my wedding, can be part of dakwah. insyaAllah."

but then again, i can only dream and plan, the final decision, i leave it to Allah. He created me, so He knows best.