you want the body? take the HEART first
Saturday, February 25, 2012,
i have been planning to share a story, but then, Klang xde internet. *sigh* xpe, chill2.
a friend texts to me this :
aku ade sorg kawan, dye suke *blah blah blah blah*. aku x tahu la macam mane nak tegur dah! annoying!
have u been in that position? ha8, welcome to the club. kite sume mesti pernah in a position where kite nk tegur org, but then x tawu care mcm mne plg subtle supaye dye x terase. so, these are the steps i gave to my friend;
first thing first, BERSANGKE BAEK! dont get me wrong. im not asking u to anggap bnde salah yg dilakukn tu BETUL n then ignores everything. what's wrong will remain wrong. bersangke baek here means, try looking things at a diff angel. try PUTTING URSELF in the person position. Y DID THEY DO, WHAT THEY DID? nk tegur ssape pown, it's good if we understand the person. buat tautan hati. bukan maen serang je. we, human, were born with this thing called EGO! and it's not easy to break! bygkan a person coming to u and try to correct u. do u think u will terime terus without thinking.... ELEH, YE KE AKU SALAH? (if u dont, then congrats 2 u)
next is, betulkn niat! tegur a person because rase syg pd sahabat kite, bkn nk condemn dye. u know why? because niat makes a lot of diff. kalau kite tegur sbb rasa sayang, kite akan tegur with an open mind. kite xkn mudah feels hurt bile ape yg kite ckp dye xnk dgr. sbb bg kite, tegur tu is part of tanggungjwb, ikhlas kerana Allah. tapi kalau just nk condemn, when what u said x berjaya utk condemn because they managed to patahkn ur so-called-hujah, u will feel like **** (insert any word u want).
remember, jaga ur words and tones. x smstinye menegur tu kena jerit2, harsh2. (ala, im sure u all know this kan)
kalau dah buat semua, but then org tu still terasa, or dye buat derk je. everything we said seems to be ignored. mcm mane?
i guess, we should look at ourself. jangan hanya nampak salah org. maybe, we didnt put the right example as a friend. contoh la kan, kite tegur, HODOHLA PEREMPUAN MAKAN BERDIRI. but then u, urself, berlari2 makan. macam mane eh? let's take my favorite guy, Rasulullah as an idol. his dakwah is not only from his WORDS, but from his ACTIONS! x bermaksud u need 2 b PERFECT baru nk tegur org, but always try to IMPROVE URSELF. nothing wrong about trying 2 b better :)
last but not least, benda yg kdg2 kite lupe..... PRAYERS! ur DU'A! ingat, we can always try to help people to be a better person, but the ONE who makes it happens is.... THE CREATOR. yang membolak balekkn hati itu adalah... Allah! it's written perfectly in surah Al-An'am 125-126.
anyway, it's ok if u tegur2, da penat da, things still havent change. sebab... yang dinilai Allah is the effort, not the hasil. Nabi Nuh pown x berjaya bawa isteri dye on the ship with him, and Rasulullah did not managed to bring his uncle into Islam. but that doesnt mean they all FAILED. it is one way of Allah telling us, NO MATTER WHO WE ARE, THE ONLY POWER BELONGS TO HIM. subhanallah.
so, there it is. this is completely from my own perspectives. something... that i feel like sharing. we all have diff ways in doing something kan? so if u have any idea to improve mine, do feel free 2 share :)
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